The relationship between mother and child
It is supported by research that the first traumatic experience a person lives through is their own birth, which is the moment the infant leaves the womb, the place it Developed and “lived in” for 9 entire months, and it being thrown out violently into the outside world. The mother is usually the first person to whom the baby gets Attached to and becomes its safe base. At the start the infant is one with the mother, but it will eventually use that safe base to start gradually exploring the world around.
The mother’s sensitivity and responsiveness to the baby’s signs and needs is very important and necessary to achieve a sense of safety, approval and love. The mother’s look should be warm and affectionate since the baby mirrors itself through her eyes. The newborn needs a strong affectionate bond and the attachment that occurs is a mutual relationship between them, that inevitably forms after long-term interactions happening all throughout in fancy. At first the interaction between them has a very interesting characteristic: the infant doesn’t have the ability to talk. Because of that, the mother can only go back and think of what “closeness” meant to Her during her life up until that moment. In an effort to relate and connect with her baby, she will be called to use her ability of loving and sharing, even though the other party can’t respond in the same way. In addition to that, love is a primal need, so if a child is around a parent that rejects and ignores it in various ways, the attachment becomes unsafe and that can greatly impact the rest of its life. One common example is the child developing anxiety and fear due to experiencing rejection and the negative feelings coming along with it. These will be the first emotions the child will feel as it goes on a seemingly endless trip back to the nonverbal stage of its life where the mother was emotionally unavailable and abusive. On the other hand, people who have experienced positive feelings, like love and forming safe boundaries, in their mothers arms during infancy, they are more likely to be confident and “walk” towards their future trusting and believing in themselves and people around them.